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Why am I still in my box?

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A year ago my mentor sent me an email about me being inside of box- not showing the world who I am, what my talents are and the gift that God has given me. Eventually I learned how to come out of my box while living in the UK and I was able to impact a few lives while doing so.  Living inside the box was safe, no one knew me, no one expected anything of me, I could be free well at least that was the illusion I was selling to myself. In contrast, living outside of the box created a passion, it made me feel valuable, it showed me my purpose in this world and that was real freedom - knowing everyday that I can impact the world just by being who I was meant to be, created a feeling of "flying" in my soul. I actually love being outside of the box although I am more vulnerable there but I think venerability is the one thing that allows people to connect with you. It's the one thing that allows people to feel comfortable around you(i.e. like a form of humility) so don't

Something Greater

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And so the journey continues. I've never felt more alive - not only do I feel different, people have told me I look different to. I am grateful for two years of GROWTH that England gave me. You want to know how strong you are? I advise you step outside of your comfort zone. It is only by stepping outside of yourself that you see the light that's within. By stepping outside of your comfort zone you take on new challenges in life and these challenges tend to take you to new levels. If I didn't move to England I would have never known how strong I was physically and spiritually. Thank God for that cycle of growth! - Take The Leap of Faith... Yes I admit, up to this point I have not lived up to my fullest potential and that's because, in my community people rarely tell you "How Great You Are" as a matter of fact they tell you "How Bad You Are" at things most of the time(I pray one day that changes). I live in a colonial country and so there is a leve

Ghetto Heaven or Hell

Dear God is it fair for a criminal to go to hell? Like is it fair for a uneducated father to go to jail ? These are the questions that make me question my faith, Because we were born into circumstance beyond our control, Whether you black or white, we all want to live right by the rules of our environment, Tupac said "Seek Knowledge from the cradle to the grave" We go to school so society won't labels us the fools, Then we graduate and behind those fake smiles there's a future of uncertainty, How many of us fulfilled our high school/college ambitions?, I guess the truth hurts,for example liking this status won't make the pain go away, These are the questions that make me question my faith, Dear God is it fair for a cociane addict to go to hell?, Like is it fair for a uneducated drug dealer to go to jail ? I'll stand his bail, not because he's my neighbour and the bible says I should love him, Because I am capable of seeing that he's a victim of circ

Human Beings Are Powerful Beings

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Our thoughts, actions and behaviors are shaped by the people we come in contact with daily. A friendly conversation can change our whole day while a unfriendly conversation can ruin it. Words of encouragement can inspire the next great leader while critical words destroys one. Our actions, no matter how small it may seem leaves a mark on our future and the futures of others around us. Therefore we must be mindful of our words, for the tongue is truly the must powerful tool we possess as human beings.  We are not tragically bond to hardships and shortcomings. With understanding of those hardships and shortcomings, a man can rise to the level of GREATNESS. The journey is not to be won but to be endured. The path is only to be walked, there is no understanding or knowledge we can gain in this lifetime that will ever be enough. Humble Thy Self for man have travel to the moon but still haven't cured poverty. The pursuit of intelligence is fallible, the pursuit of wisdom is Liberatio

#Pray4TCI

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Dr. Ross says "Your job is to use the power of what happened to you to transform" After watching Dr. Ross’ presentation one of the questions all concerned, compassionate Turks Islanders should seriously be asking ourselves, our elected, civil, social, community and religious leaders is, “What real substantial changes in our society’s attitude and laws need to occur to prevent Child Abuse and Neglect that often causes young kids to mature into depressed, frustrated, angry, unp redictable, sometimes suicidal teens and adults as a result of experiencing the emotional and/or physical trauma of an abusive childhood?” Over the past few months I've observed the spike in crime within our community and though I am somewhat impressed by the recommendations that have been suggested to combat crime, I still believe "Prevention is cure". There are numerous amounts of studies that report most criminals experiencing some sort of childhood trauma that propels them to

Making Progress On New Year's Resolution

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How do I make progress this year ? 1. Tackling the biggest misconception about new year's resolutions(NYR) - It does not have to start at the beginning of the year. Most people begin the year believing that change must be made instantly. It does not work like that. Change just like anything in the world that is worth having, takes time. Change is like a seed, you plant it, water it and make sure it is getting exposure to sunlight. By doing those things, you have made an effort and the rest is up to the universe to decide whether you are ready for a new plant(change) in your life. The universe gives us what we are ready for and it always comes at the right time.  2. What if my NYR is finding Love ? - The seed you plant for love is a seed you plant inside of yourself. A seed of personal growth; you must become the person you want to fall in love with and that takes time. We hold on to our beliefs on how life should turn out and honestly life should not be shaped by such expec

An Afro-Caribbean's Journey

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I found this picture above and I felt like someone was speaking directly to me. Have you ever read anything and was like "wow, this was the answer or inspiration I needed ?". Well, that's how I felt reading this picture above. When the slaves were freed in the Caribbean we were not given much and our ancestors did not have access to resources to educate themselves on how to survive without the aid of their masters. This resulted in years of financial and relationship struggles for the slaves and their descendants. From an evolutionary perspective, a female seeks a male who is capable of acquiring and maintaining resources. If a male does not have the abilities to do so he will not maintain healthy relationships with females. The reason why females do this is to ensure that their offspring can be taken care of for a long period of time. Now back to the point I was making, with no access to resources or proper education, the slaves who were freed in the Caribbean were lef

I Was Born A Slave

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Slave Name: Leonardo Tomiko Lightbourne Born: Turks and Caicos Plantations Site You see the picture above? That's what my ancestors looked like. Between 1662 and 1807 Britain shipped 3.1 million Africans across the Atlantic Ocean in the Transatlantic Slave Trade. Africans were forcibly brought to British owned colonies in the Caribbean and sold as slaves to work on plantations. Today, 355 years later my family and friends now occupy these islands our ancestors were once slaves in. Though many believe we are free, that is the furthest thing from true! When I was leaving to come to University in the United Kingdom my mentor told me " Don't forget where you came from". At that time I thought he meant the island I grew up in; South Caicos but now I realise it was something much deeper. It was the spirit of God speaking through him telling me to not get caught up in any propaganda that will distract me from the struggles of my people. Most Caribbean islands

Life Coaching All My Life

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As long as I can remember I always wanted to help people.  I never wanted to stand tall over anyone, I always wanted us to stand as equals. I saw this term "Life Coach"a few years ago and I was like this is me. I honestly don't believe I needed to train to do what I've been doing since the day I was born. I've helped 100s of people and my goal is to help millions one day. Economic conditions are changing and people need to understand that the old way of living is not going to work in this new era. We live in a time where people are more concerned about themselves and they're accomplishments and this is what is leading our generations down to a lifeless, unhappy and empty path. I've developed 7 areas to work on that if taken seriously leads you to a life of change, a life of more inner fulfilment. My career path was not a choice, I was born with it. I've tried many times to run away form it and all those times I was met with people who needed my help

The 4 Steps To Take When Facing Your Fears

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When I was a child I would face my fears every day I went to school. Going through name calling is never a good experience, it's bad press to simply put it. People only see you for what the public labels you as. Let's just say I got off to a bad start with the media industry. Most people accept the labels  they receive as children; for example 'you're rude' you're just like you father" in my country we say 'you're just like your par' lol. Statements like that resonate with some people and they subconsciously accept that this is all they are going to be for the rest of their lives. So what happened to me? Why didn't I turn out to be a homosexual? Let's just say I had a legitimate team from a child and her name was my mother. She would often tell me ' you are not what they are calling you' and she would send me to the grocery store knowing I was afraid to go down the road. Eventually, people stop calling me "Patty Little Sis

My Experience With Fasting

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Three years ago, the man who I now consider one of my mentors introduced me to fasting. Anyone who knows me, knows that I love to challenge myself and so I saw fasting as a new challenge. My first ever fast was the Daniel Fast which lasts about 21 days but I only made it to 20 days. Yeah I know how could you fail just one day away from completing your first spiritual fast? I visited my mom that weekend and you know how mom's cooking goes, that aroma brings back memories :) . Despite my short comings I walked away from that experience with something. "Whatever you put your mind to you can accomplish it" sort of mentality. That fast gave me so much confidence that year and I went on to start Open Thought which transformed my life and the people around me lives forever.  I always wanted to be a part of something that would transform humanity, something that would last generation after generation and to be a founder of something like that is so inspiring. When I finish sc

Grass Ain’t Greener....

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Life is what you make! For the past 5 years I've accomplished numerous of goals and after each one I was convinced that the other one would bring me the happiness I wanted. You can basically say I was on this "Pursuit of Happiness". My last attempt to pursue something took me out of my comfort zone into a country I was unfamiliar with. J Cole once said "There's no such thing as a life that's better than yours" and I've grown to understand each line of that song. After years of chasing after goals, it hit me that the only thing I needed in this lifetime is the love of my family. Listen to me I've met thousands of rich people and I can tell you that money does not make you happy. It solves a lot of problems that can cause discomfort without it but happiness, well, happiness does not have a price.  Do I want to be rich?  who doesn't want to live life on their terms but my riches does not define me, what defines me is the impact I am able to

The Need To Reflect

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I am grateful for the many lessons of 2016. I walked into 2016 with a lot of uncertainty. I didn't know how I was going to accomplish a lot of things. The odds was against me pretty much. Have I been in this situation before? Yes, numerous of times but that was when I was home (Turks and Caicos Islands). Being 4,000 miles away, I had nowhere to run if I had failed. Moving to the United Kingdom was probably the riskiest thing I've ever done. I gamble a lot with opportunities but this gamble was placing all my chips on the table and going "All in". I saw a chance for me to grow and overlooked a lot of things. Things like currency exchange, cultural norms, weather, transportation, pressures of school, learning in a multicultural environment, working in a multicultural environment, etc. Yeah each month since I've been in the UK I've encountered a life-altering lesson. Impossible right? Hell no! If you know me I love to play the odds a lot and that means I am rar

Follow me on QUora !!!!

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 Follow me on this link https://www.quora.com/profile/Chale-X I use Quora a lot which is why I do not mind being a part of its community, I got total 5000 views  this month wow that's more than my blog lol. Follow me and read some of my replies !!!! Best, Chale X

Let It Flow Chale.....

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Both of my mentors has been grilling me for my attitude lately and yes I am confessing that I was trying to force a lot of things to happen. I got worried, I allowed the fear of the future to get me completely out of my grove. I remember I would wake up hungry, ready to take on the challenges of the day and lately I've had mornings, where I didn't want to even face the reality of what my life was. Yes, somewhere I allowed society to contaminate my mind with thoughts of being an iconic success story one day. I wanted it all and I wanted it now and this is what was making my mentors uncomfortable about me. I lost the appreciation of the little things while focusing on the big picture and I cried when I realize how far I feel off from the person I was when I first started this journey. I am back into my "FLOW" mood, just allowing things to happen and what doesn't happen wasn't meant to be. I look back at last year around this time and the odds I was up agains

Does Hard Work Really Pay ?

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I label myself a success because of the obstacles I've overcome to be in the position I am in today. When my dad walked out on me as a toddler, the chances of me having a real shot at life was low, well, that's if you believe in that statistical nonsense. Obviously, I don't because I've defied every statistical analysis that was thrown at me. This period of my life would always mean a lot to me, I will always remember being 25 years old because of the thousands of lessons I learned about life and myself. I found myself, well, I saw myself finally. There's nothing to look for when everything you have is inside of you. Most people don't even need a degree, all of our gifts are innate . A university sharpens your tool. I study psychology because I love helping people and in order to help people you must understand the good and the bad about people and what makes them good and bad. My conclusion since I am a sophomore student ( that sounds so great btw :) ) is tha

New Weekness ....

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“Good morning. In less than an hour, aircraft from here will join others from around the world. And you will be launching the largest aerial battle in the history of mankind. “Mankind.” That word should have new meaning for all of us today. We can’t be consumed by our petty differences anymore. We will be united in our common interests . Perhaps it’s fate that today is the Fourth of July, and you will once again be fighting for our freedom… Not from tyranny, oppression, or persecution… but from annihilation. We are fighting for our right to live. To exist. And should we win the day, the Fourth of July will no longer be known as an American holiday, but as the day the world declared in one voice: We will not go quietly into the night! We will not vanish without a fight!  We’re going to live on! We’re going to survive! Today we celebrate our Independence Day! ” ~From the movie “Independence Day"  I've worked too hard these past 4 years to go back home in a few months to

The Choices We Make......

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Dear Leo, The choices you've been making for the past two years are not good enough. You can do better and I have seen better from you. Why are you making such terrible decisions? Who are you surrounding yourself with? Are they building you up or pulling you down? You think because you are what society calls intelligent that life is just going to open doors for you? Well, you are foolish to believe in such dreams. Everything you want out of life will require focus not hard work but focus. If you are focus you will find ways to make the work easier over time. It's hard work in the beginning and smart work in the middle and if you work smart enough you will train people so that one day it becomes no work.   I need you to focus Leo, I need you to get to a place that can only be understood by a selected few who walks this Earth. I need you to understand that you have a purpose just like every living organism on this planet. Are you fulfilling that purpose daily? You are NOT a

Where is Happiness

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My mom was one of those overprotective parents while I was growing up. I spent a lot of my time in solitude going on little adventures in our yard as a kid. I had magical trees, a side of the house I would sit on to watch the clouds and there was also an army missile in my neighbor's yard I would go look at now and again.  My childhood though I spent a lot of it alone was always fun. I remember coming home from school and just going outside to watch the clouds pass over me in the sky. I always had this weird connection with nature. I was also afraid of the dark. When I became an adult (21yrs) I begin to see the world for what it is. I looked back at my childhood and understood mother was so overprotective. My fear of the dark became the fear of the world. You have money, relationships, jobs, careers, diseases, social status, insects and the list goes on about things that can scare someone in this lifetime. I eventually conquered my fear of the dark by accepting that if somethin

I've Return.......

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"A Jedi is the one who is on his path to understand the ways of The Force. He is one that rejects his emotions and follows only his mind. Jedis try to reach absolute balance with the world that surrounds them. They focus on understanding the ways of all things and use that knowledge to bring peace to those, who suffer. The Jedis understand that true happiness is only possible when one completely controls his emotions and is sure that what he does or does not is exactly what he want and is suppose to do. A Jedi knows not hesitation or doubt, as his training gives him the skill to avoid mistakes in all forms of actions, be it combat, diplomacy, bartering, repairs or driving/piloting. But the truly important thing to remember about the Jedi is that what they do is learn all about the world surrounding them. Their power comes strictly from UNDERSTANDING, both the inanimate world and all the living creatures. They believe there is a way of all things to be, and their duty is to make