The 4 Steps To Take When Facing Your Fears

When I was a child I would face my fears every day I went to school. Going through name calling is never a good experience, it's bad press to simply put it. People only see you for what the public labels you as. Let's just say I got off to a bad start with the media industry. Most people accept the labels  they receive as children; for example 'you're rude' you're just like you father" in my country we say 'you're just like your par' lol. Statements like that resonate with some people and they subconsciously accept that this is all they are going to be for the rest of their lives. So what happened to me? Why didn't I turn out to be a homosexual? Let's just say I had a legitimate team from a child and her name was my mother. She would often tell me ' you are not what they are calling you' and she would send me to the grocery store knowing I was afraid to go down the road. Eventually, people stop calling me "Patty Little Sissy" because they realize I didn't fit that label and it was making them uncomfortable knowing I wasn't what they wanted me to be. Well having a girlfriend helped as well, lol, she was Haitian ( "sak pase to all my zoes reading this"). 

There are many other fears I could talk about but that childhood fear was the most important one to conquer because it was one I couldn't avoid. It was one even at 7-8 years old I handled with great maturity and I am so happy I went through that type of criticism at a young age. It made me the Dream Chasing, Rish Taker that I am today. Enough about me! Let's talk about the four step you can take right now to conquer your fears. It is hard I know but you are talking to an EXPERT. Let's Dive In!

Stage 1-  Express Your Fear To Your Inner Circle

One thing Open Thought has taught me is the power of conversation. Be selfish when it comes to this. Let your close friends and relatives know about the fear and why you are afraid. Talk to them openly withholding no information back. Take deep breathes in between. Some of you might cry during this stage and that's normal. What you are doing here is letting go of the fear. The fear is in your mind and talking about it, is therapeutic. What you will discover is that connection the fear has with people. Some people will admit to having the same fear and how they conquered it. Others might be going through it afraid to open up about it because they feel no one will listen. It might even be genetics maybe your mom, dad, brother, aunt went through the same thing. The idea here is to get that monkey off your brain!  

Stage 2 - Your Face It

This stage is very emotional and you will physically and mentally be drained during the beginning stages. Let me clarify if you got some extreme phobias, this post is not for that. What I am targeting is the fear of life( i.e quitting your job for your career path,  making a big investment, or getting married). Those are the fears I truly mean, if you have some sort of psychological phobia, I suggest consulting a person trained in that area. Back to this discussion. A lot of people get stuck at stage 3, reason is because they are not confident in their ability to face the fear. It's been in their head so long that it has become a giant. It's not a giant. You have to understand that millions of people prior to your existence has gone through something similar. Just Go After It, Knock on Fear Door and say 'What's your problem ?'! 

 Stage 3 - Recovery

After facing that fear you will definitely be in some state of shock, it might be a euphoric feeling, a slight fear, confusion. It will be something. This is where your friends and family come in again. Your friends and family members are important in this stage because we can constantly be entering "Recovery" based on how often we face our fear if it's not conquered on the first try, so it is vital that we continue to update the people who we told the fear about in Stage 1!. This stage is all about relying on your support system!

Stage 4 - What Fear?

 When people finally stop calling me names. I forgot all about those experiences after some months. I had friends now, people would come look for me to play with them. The rest of my childhood was filled with awesome adventures. Eventually, after you keeping going through stages 2-3 repeatedly, something great will happen, you will lose that fear. The most important thing here is support, there is always someone who wants to see you overcome it, even if its just one person. You have to believe in their vision until you start to believe in yourself. That how it works. You won't always be confident, happy and vibrant but I guarantee you, the results will mean something to you for the rest of your life. Face your fears!

Chale X